December 23rd, 2025
SE1 E3: More Than What You Do –
Finding You Beneath the Roles
Mum, daughter, partner, sister, professional — Black Women are often expected to juggle it all.
In this episode, we unpack the pressures of multiple roles and relationships, from eldest daughter syndrome to mum guilt, and how cultural expectations can weigh heavily.
We’ll share therapeutic insights and strategies for balance, boundaries, and remembering who you are beneath the responsibilities.
Key Takeaways
- Learning to reprioritise when becoming a parent
- The difference between healthy responsibility and over-functioning
- Releasing perfectionist standards in parenting and caregiving
- Motherhood requires a gaining and a losing
- Recognising “mum guilt” as a cultural pressure, not a truth
- The many roles we hold require us to give ourselves grace in the becoming
- Our personal role templates will often show up in our professional lives
- Therapy is a great way to slow down and reflect on how your life is going
- In relationships, regular check ins with each other and our needs is important
- Practical tools for boundary-setting and compassionate scheduling
Reflective Prompts
- Do a role audit: Write down all the roles you have. Consider which role energises you and which drains you? Then take a small step towards reducing the drain?
- Reflect: Do I like myself? What aspects of who I am do I really enjoy? What aspects am I satisfied with? How are the people (family, friends, work) around me experiencing me? Am I happy with that?
- Connect with your partner: What are you excited about? What are you worried/anxious about? What do you need? What do you need from me, right now? What are the ways I can love you well, in this season? How have you changed? What do I need to know about regarding your change journey?
Attribution
Song: Rainy Days – PremiumMusicOdyssey
Music provided by Pixabay
Free Download/Stream: https://pixabay.com/music/beats-rainy-days-231322/
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